Church on the Move

Relationships Restart

Most of us assume that the whole point of being in a relationship with someone is that it makes us HAPPY. The happiness narrative is woven all throughout our culture… think.....“and they lived HAPPILY ever after!”

Happiness is the filter we judge our relationships by. Truth be told, it’s the filter many of us judge our lives by. Am I happy? Am I happy in this marriage?

So what’s wrong with happiness? Well, as it turns out, a lot!

For one thing your happiness is a moving target! What makes you happy one day doesn’t make you happy the next. The dreams of your 20’s aren’t the dreams of your 30’s. Inevitably, you change and so whatever it is that makes you happy changes with you. This is an impossible burden for any one person to bear! No one can make you truly happy all of the time.

Here’s another problem with chasing happiness… what do you do when your spouse makes you unhappy? If happiness is the goal then you’ll feel tempted to bail when you get too unhappy. This is EXACTLY why so many marriages fail! 

We want happiness and our spouse doesn’t make us happy anymore, so what’s the point of being married if I’m unhappy? 

 Happiness is a fickle thing.

 Viktor Frankl, the Jewish psychiatrist who spent three years in a Nazi concentration camp said this:

 “It is the very pursuit of happiness that thwarts happiness.”

But here’s the bottom line, and this is where we’re going, happiness and love ARE NOT the same thing! Love is about sacrifice. Love is about giving in. Love is about going to the mat for the person you love even when it makes you unhappy! This is what a healthy relationship looks like!

This is EXACTLY what Paul had in mind in Ephesians 5:1-2

“Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave Himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.”

And again when he writes in Ephesians 5:21

Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.”

Notice the words he uses, offering, sacrifice, submit. When you choose to live a life of love you may not always be happy! SURPRISE! But you will be so much more fulfilled and you and your spouse will build something beautiful together, not just something that makes you happy!

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This series contains 5 messages, which can be purchased individually or as a complete set:

    •  Relationships Restart - Part 1
      Speaker: Whit George

      Date: 02/14/16
    • Relationships Restart - Part 2
      Speaker: Whit George
      Date: 02/21/16
    • Relationships Restart- Part 3
      Speaker: Whit George
      Date: 02/28/16
      • Relationships Restart - Part 4
        Speaker: Willie George
        Date: 03/06/16
      • Relationships Restart - Part 5
        Speaker: Whit and Heather George
        Date: 03/13/16
      • Relationships Restart: Complete Set